Ex Friends With Benefits Dish on Why They Decided to Break It Off in Emotional Thread About Rocky Relationships

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Eleonora Bader
Apr 26, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

Does a friends with benefits relationship ever work out? That's the million-dollar question. I can say that all of mine ended badly, without exception. Either I caught feelings and they noped out, or they caught feelings and I was like, 'Whoa, I didn't sign up for this'. I've been on both ends, and even though it's not fun rejecting someone, it's way better than being rejected. If I could go back in time, I would relieve myself of the unnecessary pain by never meeting up with these people in the first place. See, they were always upfront about the fwb thing, and I at the time, was only too happy to oblige. I was going through a breakup and was looking for a rebound, but unfortunately, all I got was another broken heart. I've been collecting them over the years and let me tell you I am done with fwb!

Check out the thread below where former fwbs share their emotional stories. Then check out this male tech employee who told his female coworker she was being aggressive, even though she was just being assertive.

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  • 01
    People who have had a 'friends with benefits' relationship, how did it end?
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    FindYourHemp. 9 hr. ago We both married the next people we dated... 2.1k Reply Share phantasybm . 8 hr. ago Good luck chucked each other 540 Reply Share
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    Eatyourfriendz. 10 hr. ago I caught feelings. They asked me to try and stuff that way down because they needed the connection due to some personal stuff. Bad suggestion, but I did that. Months later they caught feelings. Tough luck cause I had shoved it so far down that it was never coming back. Told them I'm out. Ruined a friendship of 8+ years. 447 Reply Share
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    coffeewalnut05 - 9 hr. ago Just fizzled out due to distance and moving on with our lives 2.8k Reply Share Bawdy_Brambles. 7 hr. ago Exact same 270 Reply Share
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    MyStationIsAbandoned 3 hr. ago Same as well...we both ust kind of lost interest I guess. Said hi to each other less and less. Eventually just stopped communicating and it's been...geez 11 years now. Although, I mainly lost interest because all of a sudden she started doing the one word reply thing, acting distant etc. But things were great before that. But after she started doing that, I messaged her like two more times just checking to see if things had changed, maybe she was just in a bad mood
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    Fresh-Package5303. 9 hr. ago It ended with a wedding and the birth of my daughter. 4.1k Reply Share UprootedLandfill • 7 hr. ago A spouse with health benefits 1.2k Reply Share
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    unholyswordsman · 10 hr. ago Still friends, no "benefits". 2.3k Reply Share Steewike 9 hr. ago • haha 198 Reply Share
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    Citizen Dldo 8 hr. ago Same here. We ended the benefits when I started dating someone else. She went back to her ex. 8 months later she propositioned me to end my relationship and she'd end hers, and wanted to have a relationship with me. I declined and we remained friends to this day. She married him, I married and divorced her. Engaged to another friend I've been best friends with since before I knew her or my ex wife. Life is funny sometimes. 458 Reply Share
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    randombeing222 . 9 hr. ago Ended up married to him. Have been married for 9 years and we just welcomed our first baby together. 759 Reply Share yeoduq 7 hr. ago [ in, one of you caught feels. Better dip now 250 Reply Share
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    TheShowstoppaNT - 9 hr. ago We broke it off, then started again. Then I realized I couldn't live without her. We've been married 14 years this year. 1.1k Reply Share hihirogane 4 hr. ago I love this comment so much. So d. 1 wholesome. 83 Reply Share
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    littlehappysquid · 8 hr. ago College fwb. We graduated, said that was fun, and happily said goodbyes. Life went on and we didn't keep in touch. 3 years later he lived across the country and he texted me to say he was vacationing with some friends in my city. Now it's 9 years later and we are watching bluey - married with a kid. 235 Reply Share
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    mediocrelpn 9 hr. ago together 24 years and married for 17. 730 Reply Share vanillacake_pop · 4 hr. ago GOALS for real 9 ⇓ Reply Share
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    lifes_lemonade_stand . 9 hr. ago I married him, lol. We were FWB for about 6 months before we realized we were actually in love with each other and wanted to do the official thing. Got married about 6 years later. Been married for 5 years now, still love the guy. 215 Reply Share
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    desdmona 10 hr. ago I got a bf, he got a gf, we decided mutually that we were better as just friends 755 Reply Share
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    Tap_Regular233.9 hr. ago Ended up catching feelings, and now we're navigating this weird space between friends and something more... it's like a rom-com, but messier. ⇧ 460↓ Reply Share AITA_Omc_modsuck. 7 hr. ago But messier what? He won 5 cups with 2 teams, a world cup, 3 Canada cups and a world championship. He likes his Lays chips and is one helluva nice guy! 101 Reply Share
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    ndividual5414. 10 hr. ago Oh great. We were both rebounding off other relationships and we were not meant to be together at all. But we enjoyed each other's company and we cared about each other. We were actually friends. When we ended things, he sang me to sleep and we cuddled all night. Love and care doesn't have to be committed. 1.1k Reply Share
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    lunaticwhishperere16. 10 hr. ago Not bad- it just kind of ended. I was on the way toward developing feelings so I had pulled back some- the‹‹ was about as good as I have ever had- but we were in completely different places in our lives and had we moved forward she was going to be more of a dependent than a partner. I had left another relationship for that reason and just couldn't see doing it again. I had met someone else and it seemed like there was potential for something real so I told her. A
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    cutebutcray 9 hr. ago It was a dumpster fire. But it taught me a lot and over time I was able to accept my part of the responsibility for it ending the way it did. Now I steer clear of these situations as I know they don't work for me. Most people don't get out of these situationships unscathed. 51 Reply Share ...
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    Fearless_Nature_9989 9 hr. ago I ended up wanting more in the relationship. He didn't. Ended our 8 year friendship 37 Reply Share ...
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    Cypripedium-candidum . 9 hr. ago He ghosted me after saying he thought he might want a real relationship with me, got back together with his baby mama, had another baby with her, married her, divorced within a year or 2, and throughout all this continued to send me random messages trying to meet up for 10 YEARS after. I told him several times not interested, "fɩk off", etc and ignored the last message in 2021 completely. 13 Reply Share
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    blackmobius 8 hr. ago Ended horribly when I was informed that she preferred me to her bf. She was cheating on him with me. I walked away and didnt look back. A few years later she was preg and single; no idea who was the dad or if long term bf ever found out
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    weeabooskums. 8 hr. ago Started off as close friends, she came on to me and we became FWB. One day we had a conversation about our future and she went on an hour+ monologue about why we would never work out in an actual relationship and talked about how we were on different life trajectories, had different levels of ambitions, different values on family, etc. All really good reasons not to date. A week later I was walking w/ another female friend (no romantic interest) and she saw us. Called me
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    Tizmoa 7 hr. ago edited 1 hr. ago Bad. Very bad for me emotionally. I already had a huge crush on him when he invited me out that would lead to our FWB relationship. I was ecstatic and surprised, a "your crush likes you back" moment. A few weeks following the initial invite out, I asked him if he had any interest in dating me. He told me "not right now" because he was "still hung up on his ex," By this point, I was in too deep. my mere crush moved to love. If he told me to jump, with my whole ch
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    He became more and more distant, weeks would go by with not having seen each other. I sent him a text, saying "I miss hanging out with you," I didn't dare say "I miss you," because I did feel that would have pushed him further away and my sinking feeling was right. He broke things off with me that night. Cut to a few months later with very little contact, he tells me he's "seeing someone new," Whoever his new someone is, I hope he treats her better than how he treated me, and I even told him tha
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    rstonex 6 hr. ago She went to a school an hour away and was on a scholarship. She visited her friend at my school and we h ed up. She was catching feelings and wanted to give up her scholarship to switch to my school so I dumped her to prevent her from making a stupid mistake. She was d, but I felt like I did the right thing. p
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    bigbumbabehappy OP 10 hr. ago In my experience I had a good friend that said something that made me think he was catching feelings. It kind of scared me away, and instead of talking to him about it like an adult, I dumped him and walked away from his friendship. So I never got the chance to know how it could have gone. ⇧ 20↓ Reply Share ...
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